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superbia19872
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Hi, there. Lately I've reached a place where my sex life is difficult because I'm significantly less interested in sex than superheroine peril. I don't want to engage in the fantasy myself, I just like to watch it and otherwise fantasize about it. But also, I don't want to drift away from my partner because I'm not interested in the play. Have any of you been in this situation and are willing to talk about how you got through it?
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Well Step 1 is to not gauge all of your relationships success by how much sex you're having. An active sex life could be an indicator of a healthy relationship......... or can be the only thing holding together a bad one. It isn't the end all and be all of love and companionship, it's just one element of it. If your marriage is still trucking along mostly normally, you've already had plenty of kids (or not variable on your shared wants and desires) then you just aren't having as much sex anymore and that may just be the natural result of living long enough? Find other things to do with each other that you both like to do? Go to dinner, see a play, head to the park for a round of frisbee golf... idk, you do you. Once you start doing other things together you might even find yourselves having more sex again.

If the opportunity arises opening up with your partner about your fetish CAN lead to a healthier relationship but 9/10 times alas, your partner just isn't going to be interested enough in it to do any kind of roleplay with you EVEN if they ultimately understand and accept it.

Step 2 is not letting your fetish usurp your entire life. A fetish can be like a drug if you let it. Its fine to partake of it and enjoy from time to time, when you have free personal time etc, but if you find yourself spending more than half your days ignoring your partner and family to browse superheroine porn on the internet... the solution is probably to step away from the pc or phone more often and enjoy some of the other things about existence. That's easier for some people than others I understand, but for sure, there's stuff out there you'll find shared enjoyment of if you go looking for it and like I said above... if you're out and about doing things together you may find yourselves having more sex again as a byproduct.
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i had a girlfriend who understood my interests and would often comment on her bending a lamppost irl when we saw it. it made for an interesting sex life to the point she adopted a persona so we'd know it was on
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superbia19872 wrote:
1 year ago
Hi, there. Lately I've reached a place where my sex life is difficult because I'm significantly less interested in sex than superheroine peril. I don't want to engage in the fantasy myself, I just like to watch it and otherwise fantasize about it. But also, I don't want to drift away from my partner because I'm not interested in the play. Have any of you been in this situation and are willing to talk about how you got through it?
Any reason you don't want to actually role-play in real life?

Porn addiction is real and if you consume a lot of porn without finding ways to explore it in your personal life you risk destroying your relationship.

I would recommend going through therapy and finding ways to connect what excites you into your actual relationship, as with the limited information provided here it sounds like you are heading in a bad direction
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Femina and others stated it very well: Take a break for a bit from Superheroine peril. It will always be around. It is definitely easier said than done, but if you can take some time off or at the very least find a balance, you will probably be better off in the long run with your partner.
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